The soul cannot forgive until it
is restored to wholeness and health.
In the absence of love - how can one forgive?

With an abundance of love, starting with one's self,
forgiveness becomes a viable opportunity.
-Nancy Richards

Thursday, September 23, 2010

Family Estrangement Books and Resources:

This is an old post from September 2008. I thought I would re-post this for anyone coming across my blog for the very first time.

Support Groups:

Healing from Family Rifts Yahoo Support Group for anyone dealing with a Family Rift – Membership required to read or post messages. Covers "all" sides and types of family estrangement. As of March 2009, the largest group of active members is adult children estranged from their parents.

Estranged Stories for anyone dealing with a Family Rift - This is a Ning Social Networking Support Group. Membership required to read or post messages. At the time of this addition (March 2009), the active membership is predominately made up of parents who are estranged from their adult children.

Motherless3 Yahoo Support Group for Motherless Daughters who have lost their mother due to Rejection, Abandonment, or Estrangement. Membership required to read or post messages.

Garden Web Parents Forum – Public Message board with threads on family estrangement.

Dr. Joshua Coleman’s Website has comment sections for parents to discuss their estrangements.


AARP online magazine message boards (family section) often deals with the topic of family estrangement.

Websites Dealing with Family Estrangement:

H.E.R. Healing Estranged Relationships

Support 4 Change

Family Intervention


Family Wanted

Mark Sichel's Blog


Healing from family rifts: Ten steps to finding peace after being cut off from a family member, by Mark Sichel, LCSW

When Parents Hurt: Compassionate Strategies When You and Your Grown Child Don’t Get Along, by Joshua Coleman

I Thought We’d Never Speak Again: The Road from Estrangement to Reconciliation, by Laura Davis

Family Estrangements: How They Begin, How to Mend Them, How to Cope with Them, by Barbara Lebay

FRAGMENTED FAMILIES: Patterns of Estrangement and Reconciliation, by Ellen Sucov

Walking on Eggshells: Navigating the Delicate Relationship Between Adult Children and Parents, by Jane Isay

For Mothers of Difficult Daughters; How to Enrich and Repair the Relationship in Adulthood, by Charney Herst

When You and Your Mother Can't Be Friends: Resolving the Most Complicated Relationship of Your Life, by Victoria Secunda

I'm OK, You're My Parents : How to Overcome Guilt, Let Go of Anger, and Create a Relationship That Works, by Dale Atkins

Making Peace with Your Parents, by Harold Bloomfield MD

Divorcing a Parent: Free Yourself from the Past and Live the Life You've Always Wanted, by Beverly Engel, M.F.C.C.

Making Peace With Your Adult Children: A Guide to Family Healing, by Shauna Smith

Heal and Forgive II: The Journey from Abuse and Estrangement to Reconciliation, by Nancy Richards


April_optimist said...

Great resources here on your blog.

AbuseAndForgiveness said...

Thanks April!

x said...

thanks, nancy, for these resources. the problems in my family, which stem from my brother deciding to cut himself, his wife and his 2-year old son off from my parents and i, seem insurmountable. but after my latest miserably failed attempt at reconciliation (without using any resources), i have decided to actively try to push our family toward healing. everyone says they want it, but nothing seems to help. so thank you so much for providing resources for this problem. it affects every moment of my life (waking AND sleeping) and i am determined to do everything i can to help heal this broken family. i'm certain your help will be invaluable.

AbuseAndForgiveness said...

You're Welcome!

I'm sorry for your loss. I understand the profound pain of broken family relationships.

Like you said, often the best we can do is to decide to heal OUR lives.

everydaymemoriesblog said...

I am wondering about resources for rifts between siblings - not much is addressed on that. Also, besides this issue - what about friend rifts? I would love to see resources on both issues. Thanks so much for your books Nancy - as I have posted before on other sites - your writing gave me great insights to my own Family Rift and ways for me to heal and go on to thrive without FOO.

AbuseAndForgiveness said...

Dear Everydaymemories,

Thank you for your comments. I’m always grateful when my work helps others on their healing journey!

You’re right, although some of these groups do include members dealing with sibling rifts, I don’t know of any that are specifically designed for "Sibling Estrangements," or "Friendship Estrangements."

The closest group I am aware of dealing with "Sibling Rifts" only deals with sibling abuse issues:

If anyone knows of any other estrangement support groups, especially those dealing with sibling rifts, or friendship rifts, please leave me a comment and I’d be happy to add it to the list!

Thanks again for your comments,