A friend of mine sent me a video today that touched my heart. It reminded me of "rebuilding families."
A huge part of recovering from family estrangement is building a "Family of Choice." Or, as Mark Sichel calls it, a "Second Chance Family."
Family cut-offs are huge losses. Even if our relationship(s) was stressful, there is no way around mourning this sort of "death:" our history... what could have been... what should have been... and what was not.
We mourn as we rebuild until the rebuilding out-weighs the mourning.
After my family estrangement, I began to fill my Holidays and other family traditions with my new "family" of choice." Once I'd healed enough to be emotionally present with my new "family," I relished in the experience of walking amongst these people and feeling love in the air.
Given my personal experience, videos about animals creating inter-species relationships/family groups intrigue me:
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Awww! How cute! And what a positive post. I needed one of those, thanks.
You're welcome, Marj.
ahhh, such peace you offer us. I love to come by and read you and find that you offer so much positive vibe to us. I have posted a link to a post on Women Doing More. Something my aunt and I wrote up together about the loss of a child, and then her helping me through abuse and abandonment. if you get a chance to read it I would love your feedback. Thanks.
The Women Doing More piece is beautiful and inspiring! Thank you for sharing it with me.
Tears came to my eyes as I read.
Many thanks to you and your Aunt for a powerful example of allowing grief to bear healing and compassionate fruit.
Warm regards,
Nancy
Thank you for sharing this uplifting post. Blessings!
You're Welcome!
Thanks for stopping by.
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