tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8557084346768128841.post4892779425311692829..comments2023-05-25T08:51:36.759-07:00Comments on Heal and Forgive: 1992 – Entry Six – Listening to My HeartAbuseAndForgivenesshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09738069361076986611noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8557084346768128841.post-84706693541550313382012-09-28T13:07:50.464-07:002012-09-28T13:07:50.464-07:00So, yes, experiencing that "full range" ...<i>So, yes, experiencing that "full range" seems to have more honesty and depth to it than a superficial forgiveness!</i><br /><br />You are welcome!<br /><br />And thank you for sharing your experience. It is always validating to hear other people express the same "range of emotion."<br /><br />All my best, <br />NancyAbuseAndForgivenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09738069361076986611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8557084346768128841.post-27162694796018432892012-09-28T06:41:05.963-07:002012-09-28T06:41:05.963-07:00Hi Nancy, I like what you say about being free to ...Hi Nancy, I like what you say about being free to experience "a full range of emotions."<br /><br />Interesting too what your therapist said about a "healthy rage".<br /><br />For me, the <i>process of healing itself</i> actually led to a lot of rage. I understand this better now, because part of that process was a (in my view perfectly understandable) question of "why couldn't this have happened earlier? Why did it have to take so long to get to this point, despite all my efforts at self-healing over the years?"<br /><br />For me, this extended to the spirit too. How could I trust in a higher power, if that higher power seemed to treat my own attempts at self-healing with such indiscriminate disinterest?<br /><br />So, yes, experiencing that "full range" seems to have more honesty and depth to it than a superficial forgiveness!<br /><br />Thanks again for your blog.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8557084346768128841.post-23465147087755980312008-04-29T16:40:00.000-07:002008-04-29T16:40:00.000-07:00Dear Tamara, Thank you for sharing your story. I ...Dear Tamara, <BR/><BR/>Thank you for sharing your story. I too, struggled with guilt, so my heart goes out to you with this shared experience. <BR/><BR/>I’m so glad that your chronic pain and illness eased up when you stopped seeing your parents. It shows that you are on the right track with your healing. I understand that moving brought up some old stresses; yet, I’m sure (as is evidenced with the healthy use of your anger), that you are healing at a deeper level.<BR/><BR/>It is good to hear that you are writing. I understand how vulnerable it is to venture out into cyberspace – it takes courage. Writing is a great way to help heal your own wounds and it validates other survivors as well.<BR/><BR/>I appreciate your comments about "Heal and Forgive." My hope in writing the book was to give other people the validation that I had needed for my "unpopular" feelings. Thank you! <BR/><BR/>Best wishes on your continued journey!<BR/><BR/>Warmly, <BR/>NancyAbuseAndForgivenesshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09738069361076986611noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8557084346768128841.post-87836107060704424222008-04-29T16:03:00.000-07:002008-04-29T16:03:00.000-07:00Nancy,Thank you for your website and your book. I...Nancy,<BR/><BR/>Thank you for your website and your book. I just finished reading your book and it spoke to many things I have been struggling with. I, too, decided to stop contact with my abusive parents a little over 2 years ago. It was the most difficult thing I have ever done and it was eating me up with guilt. I finally reached peace with my decision and then my husband and I moved to another state and the guilt began again because I didn't let my parents know that I was moving or where I am now living (which is in Oregon - we moved from Maui). I have struggled with chronic pain and Lupus since I was a kid and am convinced that a lot of it was brought on by extreme stress and PTSD. After I stopped speaking to my parents, for the first time in years the pain and illness (oh, and severe insomnia) were easing up a lot and then it all began again when we moved. Through it all I never really got in touch with my anger. About 2 weeks ago I went to bed and couldn't sleep because a rage like I have never known overtook me. I wanted to break things, scream and yell. Since that night I have used my anger to feel stronger, more in control of my life than I have ever been before. I began my own website and am posting some of my story and poetry I write about my feelings and the abuse. I have not had a pain pill since the night of the rage. Anyway, thank you because your book supported so many of my "unpoplular" feellings. I know people are well-meaning but telling me to forgive and move on is absolutely not helping me.<BR/><BR/>TamaraTamara (TC) Stapleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00633350990983632539noreply@blogger.com