Heal and Forgive: A Fresh Start With Sallie Felton

Why Heal and Forgive?

For decades, I heard from friends, relatives, therapists, and fellow Christians, that I needed to forgive my abusers in order to heal. This advice - and the attempts I made to forgive before I'd learned to exercise personal boundaries - left me open to further injury and damaged me deeply.

When I finally mustered the courage to buck societal expectations; not to forgive; and to put my own healing and well-being first, I achieved a level of healing that I never thought was possible. My period of Not forgiving created the space necessary to achieve the greatest emotional growth of my life. Wow!

The unintentional by-product of this healing, was - ironically - forgiveness.

At that time, I realized that the old adage, "Forgive and Heal," was backwards. For me, it was "Heal and Forgive!"

If I only knew *then* that adequate healing had to come first, it would have saved me a great deal of time and pain. So, now I shout it from the roof tops "Heal, THEN Forgive!"

Wednesday, October 28, 2009

A Fresh Start With Sallie Felton

Today I'll be a guest on A Fresh Start With Sallie Felton which broadcast live from Seattle, Washington on Contact Radio 106.9 FM HD Channel 3.

We will be discussing Family Estrangement, Reconciliation, Healing, and Forgiveness.

To listen LIVE via the web, visit: Contact Radio. From the home page, click on the "LISTEN NOW" button in the upper left hand column.

Wednesday October 28th:
12 - 1 PM Pacific Time
1 - 2 PM Rocky Mountain Time
2-3 PM Central Time
3-4 PM Eastern Time

If you have questions or comments during the show, please feel free to join in the discussion at:
1-877-230-3062 or 425-644-5620

Should you wish to listen later; the show will be available in the archives.

6 comments:

mountainmama said...: hi nancy, congratulations on your broadcast! i haven't watched it yet, but that's terrific. i'm glad more people will get to learn what you have to say. your perspective has really been helpful and healing for me. i feel like i've made some significant progress this year regarding healing and forgiveness and finding your blog and being able to refer back to it was of significant help to me. i just wrote a post yesterday sort of saying where i feel i am today on all this. and i recommended your blog to someone in my comments.

i just wanted to say thank you again, nancy :); November 12, 2009 8:34 AM
healandforgive said...: Hi MM,

It is so good to hear from you!

I stopped by to read your post - very insightful.

I'm happy to hear about all of your progress. Congratulations!

Thank you for your kind words.

Warmly,
Nancy; November 12, 2009 7:29 PM
Mary said...: Hi Nancy, congrats to you on your broadcast. I havent been around for a while, had some surgery on my shoulder, and now can type, so have finally written a new poem..; November 12, 2009 7:49 PM
healandforgive said...: Hi Mary,

Thanks for stopping by again!

I'm glad you are healing from your surgery.

Thanks for sharing another amazing poem!

All my best,
Nancy; November 12, 2009 8:15 PM
Marj aka Thriver said...: Hhhmmmm...I only found stuff from July in those archives. Tell us how it went for you, won't you?; November 16, 2009 3:26 PM
healandforgive said...: Hi Marj!

Good to hear from you. I think it went well the show archive is at:

http://www.salliefeltonlifecoach.com/Radio-09-Arch.html

Thanks!
Nancy; November 16, 2009 4:22 PM