Heal and Forgive: Taking a Blogger Break

Why Heal and Forgive?

For decades, I heard from friends, relatives, therapists, and fellow Christians, that I needed to forgive my abusers in order to heal. This advice - and the attempts I made to forgive before I'd learned to exercise personal boundaries - left me open to further injury and damaged me deeply.

When I finally mustered the courage to buck societal expectations; not to forgive; and to put my own healing and well-being first, I achieved a level of healing that I never thought was possible. My period of Not forgiving created the space necessary to achieve the greatest emotional growth of my life. Wow!

The unintentional by-product of this healing, was - ironically - forgiveness.

At that time, I realized that the old adage, "Forgive and Heal," was backwards. For me, it was "Heal and Forgive!"

If I only knew *then* that adequate healing had to come first, it would have saved me a great deal of time and pain. So, now I shout it from the roof tops "Heal, THEN Forgive!"

Tuesday, August 11, 2009

Taking a Blogger Break

My home improvement "to do" list has been mounting for years. I finally jumped in with both feet and tore apart most of the house. Wow! What a mess!

I am currently preoccupied with painting, tiling floors, new counter tops, etc., and writing is going to have to take a back burner until I get my house back under control.

So, until then...everyone is in my thoughts....

Blessings,
Nancy

12 comments:

Brother Frankie said...: when you are done.. not before, can you lend me some of your ambition for a month or so?; August 13, 2009 4:13 PM
healandforgive said...: Brother Frankie,

I'm curious; lend some ambition for what?; August 13, 2009 4:20 PM
Brother Frankie said...: oh, painting, tiling, counter tops, tearing apart, putting back together.

my house is not under control.

nothing nasty, nothing bad, just passin thru by mutual friends..

Be Blessed, and have fun.

Frankie; August 13, 2009 8:35 PM
healandforgive said...: :) Thanks!

I figure I'll be an expert by the time I'm done!

Blessings to you too!
Nancy; August 13, 2009 8:48 PM
Just Be Real said...: Looking forward to your return Nancy. ♥; August 15, 2009 3:13 AM
healandforgive said...: Thanks JBR!; August 15, 2009 7:21 AM
Susan M DeAngelis said...: I've been house cleaning myself... trying everything I can to keep above water.; August 16, 2009 5:38 PM
healandforgive said...: Susan,

Peace be with you.

Blessings,
Nancy; August 16, 2009 8:21 PM
Anonymous said...: Nancy,

My husband and I have been away, on a much needed holiday. It has been good, relaxing, refreshing... it has been good to take something I was afraid of and make it a good memory. The bad memories are becoming more distant and my life is starting to feel like my own.

I hope your 'renervations' go as planned, and I hope you have lots of fun making them! It can be very empowering ;)

I will look out for your return to the world of blogging... in the meantime, I must get hold of your books (they've been in my amazon basket for quite some time now!)

Peace and best wishes,

Ruth.; August 17, 2009 1:21 AM
healandforgive said...: Hi Ruth,

I'm so glad you got to get away, relax,and make a good memory. Wonderful!

It is also great that the bad memories are becoming more distant.

I'm excited to finally be taking the time to "re-do" my home. Even though it's hard work, it's also energizing!

All my best,
Nancy; August 17, 2009 6:49 AM
Marj aka Thriver said...: Hope you're getting that house put back together. Thinking of you.; September 12, 2009 8:02 PM
healandforgive said...: Thanks Marj!

Hope you are well.; September 13, 2009 7:38 AM